The pain of broken relationships

28 Sep

“Broken relationships are a razor across the artery of the spirit. Stemming the hemorrhage and binding the wound should be done as quickly as possible. Yet all too often, it takes months or years. And sometimes, the bleeding never stops. True reconciliation is one of the most powerful of all human interactions.”

Dr. Richard Swenson, in Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial, and Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives

It is unfortunate when people choose to nurse a grudge rather than nurture grace. It is regrettable when someone cherishes a perceived slight rather than granting forgiveness to the offending party. It is heartbreaking when an individual continues to fan the flames of bitterness rather than quenching the fire through reconciliation.

As a pastor, I have seen the truth of Dr. Swenson’s quote played out in the lives of people. Sad to say, some choose to keep the wound open rather than apply the healing balm of grace and forgiveness. Because of their unwillingness to extend grace, it makes me wonder if they have truly experienced grace to begin with.

1 Comment

Posted by on September 28, 2012 in Books, Personal growth


One response to “The pain of broken relationships

  1. amngilbert

    September 28, 2012 at 10:49 pm

    “The thing I find most amazing about amazing grace it the chance to give it out. Maybe that’s what love is all about.” -Brandon Heath, from the song “I’m not who I was.”

    I think you last comment is an important one. Christ said that the two most important commandments are to love God and to love people. He also said that we will be forgiven in the same measure in which we forgive. I have held on to things myself, and God always confronted me on it. When you finally let go of that selfish hate, you are quickly reminded of how the same was done for you (concerning far greater sins) and just how awesome that really is. I know this was the case with me, at least. Praise GOD who is slow to anger and willing to forgive!


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