I’m taking a group of men at First Central Baptist Church through 33: The Series from authenticmanhood.com. We’re currently in volume 2: A man and his story. This unit helps to identify the situations and people who help shape us for good and bad. If we’ve been wounded in the past, we need to find hope and healing. Otherwise, we will remain stuck. Here’s a helpful chart that expresses the difference between those who are wounded and those who found healing.
Like a physical wound, an untreated emotional would can infect everything around it. The resulting sickness can cause significant harm to the entire organism, be it a person, a marriage, a family or community. Here then, we take a look at the differences between a man who has experienced healing and a man who remains wounded.
|Man who hasn’t healed:||Man who has healed:|
|Unable to fully live in the present, because part of his soul remains rooted in his past.||At peace with his past, able to fully live in the present and move boldly into his future.|
|Easily angered. His anger spills over onto others who aren’t the cause or source of his wounds.||Anger no longer bubbling just beneath the surface; instead his wrath is typically reserved for people and situations that merit righteous anger.|
|May have difficulty extending genuine forgiveness to others in spite of a sincere desire to do so.||Capable of exercising real, complete forgiveness and experiencing the benefits of a soul free of maintaining a list of ways he’s been wronged.|
|Questions his self-worth, lacks confidence, blames himself for conflicts or failures that may have had little or nothing to do with him.||Finds his self-worth in his position as an adopted son of God, created, rescued and valued by a Father who will never fail or disown him.|
|My struggle to trust or experience intimacy with spouse or those who could be close friends. May subconsciously sabotage relationships to minimize the risk of being wounded by someone else.||Capable of intimacy with his spouse and close friends. Willing to take the risk of being vulnerable with others and making himself fully known.|
|Able to recognize and love God as “Father.” Willing to cede control of his life to One he knows can be fully trusted.|
|Incapable of living the life of Authentic Manhood God made him to live because his wounds continue to fester, perhaps even growing and wounding others.||Capable of living the life of Authentic Manhood God made him to live. Equipped to help others find healing for the wounds in their soul.|
33: The Series, Volume 2: A Man and His Story, p. 78-79