Book Review: Strengths Based Marriage: Build a stronger relationship by understanding each other’s gifts, by Jimmy Evans & Allan Kelsey
It is often said that communication is the key to building a stronger marriage. Marriage experts Jimmy Evans and Allan Kelsey go one step further by helping couples better understand each other so that they can communicate better.
The premise of their book, Strengths Based Marriage: Build a stronger relationship by understanding each other’s gifts, is that our greatest contributions in life as well as our greatest joy will come from knowing and operating within our strengths. The authors believe that the same can be said of marriage. With that in mind, they show how couples can make use of the Clifton StrengthsFinder assessment tool to better understand each other. This will not only promote better understanding but will also help to break some of the negative cycles that creep into marriage.
To get the most out of the book, each partner must be willing to not only read the book but also take the assessment tool. (What the book does NOT mention is the cost of the assessment tool. It is $15/person to identify your top five strengths and $74/person to identify all 34 strengths & weaknesses. The extra cost will hinder many couples from taking the next step and getting as much out of the book as they can.)
In addition, it would also be helpful if a couple would engage a mentor couple or counselor to help them think through the material and how to practice it in their daily lives. Without the commitment of both partners and the guidance from a neutral third-party, the information will have limited benefit.
While the book is informative, they are too many drawbacks to recommend it.
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