Well over a decade ago, I read a book by Andy Stanley entitled, Choosing to Cheat: Who wins when family and work collide? The book was later retitled, When Work and Family Collide: Keeping your job from cheating your family.
The premise of the book is that all of us have a limited, finite amount of time. Consequently, we must cheat to be successful. You have to cheat your family if you want to be successful in your career, or, you have to cheat your career to be successful in your family responsibilities. We have to determine our priorities and decide who is going to get the most amount of time.
While the book focuses on work and family, the principle holds true in every area of our lives. You cannot be equally successful at home, work, school, church, friendships, sports, etc. You have to make difficult choices where you will invest your time and energies. You have to give yourself permission to get a “B” instead of an “A.” You have to be satisfied with being an employee rather than a manager or an owner. You have to be content with having an apartment instead of a house, or a house and car rather than a house in the city, a cabin in the country, and two cars and a boat.
At some point in time, you have to wrestle with the question, who are you going to cheat? But spend much time in prayer before you make that choice to insure you make the right one.