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Don’t be a snowplow parent

As parents, we often want to protect our children from hardship. We want to spare them from pain and difficulty. We don’t want them to go through what we did. However, instead of helping our children, we may be hindering their growth. That is the conclusion of an article in Sports Illustrated entitled, The Rise of the Snowplow Sports Parents.”

The author of the article explains the term, snowplow parenting.

The phenomenon also reflects what’s happening in the rest of society, says psychologist Madeline Levine, an expert on the topic. “It used to be helicopter parenting,” she says. “And now it is snowplow parenting, which is much more active: It means you are doing something to smooth the way for the child. It’s not just that you’re hypervigilant—it’s that you are actually getting rid of those bumps, which robs kids of the necessary experience of learning and failing.”

Towards the end of the article, hockey agent Allain Roy realized he was not doing his son any favors by being overly involved in trying to advance him in sports.

Two years ago, hockey agent Allain Roy was flying home with his teenage son after spending several thousand dollars to take him to a weekend baseball showcase to improve his chances of getting a college scholarship. He started wondering, Is this worth the investment? How much is too much involvement? He started typing out his thoughts into a post for his agency’s blog, writing, “As we rush to fix every little blemish in our kids’ lives and try to influence their way to success, we cause more irreparable damage than we know.”

In contrast to that, I remember a statement I heard some years ago when Carol and I were helping our youngest daughter, Caitlin, get settled into the dorms at Gordon College. During one of the sessions for parents, Dr. Judson & Mrs. Jan Carlberg shared some words of encouragement. Jan Carlberg used the phrase, “Struggle is a holy word.”

As parents, our desire is to smooth out the path for our children. We want to shield them from pain. When a child calls home to say they are not getting along with their college roommate, we want to storm the administration to demand a change. When that same child says they are unhappy after the first week of school and wonder if they made the right decision to go away to college, we want to jump in the car or on a plane and bring them home forthwith. Yet, when we do that, we often stunt our children’s growth because we don’t allow them to struggle.

Jan reminded us that God uses trials as a catalyst to help us grow. As James 1:2-4 says in The Message, “Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work, so that you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.”

Struggle is part of God’s strategy to help us and our children grow to maturity. Avoid the temptation to be a helicopter and/or and a snowplow parent. Struggle is a holy word.

 

Life Lessons from John Wooden

Book Review: Coach Wooden’s Forgotten Teams: Stories and Lessons from John Wooden’s Summer Basketball Camps, by Pat Williams with Jim Denney

Having grown up in Southern California during the heyday of UCLA basketball, I was a fan and follower of Coach John Wooden. I remember reading his biography, They Call Me Coach, when it came out in the late 1980’s. Needless to say, I looked forward to reading the latest book by Pat Williams and Jim Denney, Coach Wooden’s Forgotten Teams: Stories and Lessons from John Wooden’s Summer Basketball Camps. I had heard about the camps from Prof. Howard Hendricks, who taught at Dallas Theological Seminary and was chaplain of the Dallas Cowboys in the NFL. The Cowboys held their training camp at California Lutheran College at the same time Coach Wooden held his summer basketball camps for children and teenagers.

Williams’ book highlights many of the lessons taught by Coach Wooden during these summer camps. Wooden was always coaching the kids and the counselors. Success is in the details. Be a leader who builds leaders. Teach wisdom, not winning. Empower your people. Strive for competitive greatness. At the heart of Coach Wooden’s approach was his “Pyramid of Success,” which highlighted and explained the key elements of his life and coaching philosophy.

William’s book is filled with stories and interviews from former UCLA players and coaches, as well as a number of people who attended Wooden’s camps as campers and counselors. It is a quick and interesting read. Anyone who follows college basketball or simply wants to be a better teacher or leader will find it profitable and encouraging.

Disclosure: I received this book free from Baker Books through the Baker Books Bloggers www.bakerbooks.com/bakerbooksbloggers program. The opinions I have expressed are my own, and I was not required to write a positive review.

 
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Posted by on April 2, 2018 in Books, Leadership, Sports

 

FCBC Softball – Playoff edition

Congratulations to the First Central Bible Church Softball team. They ended the season in a three-way tie for first, swept the first round of the playoffs, and made it to the league championship last night. Unfortunately, they came out on the wrong end of the score, but that did not diminish a great season. The team did well and the fans of all ages supported them with enthusiasm.

 
 

FCBC at the bat – Coed team

On Thursday evenings, First Central Bible Church fields a coed softball team in the Interchurch Softball league. While still competitive, the emphasis is more on fun, fellowship, and friendship. Not a bad way to spend a 95 degree evening.

 

FCBC at the bat

The spring 2017 interchurch softball season is underway. After one month, First Central Bible Church is 4-2 with one rainout. The team is a mix of young guns and ageless veterans. It’s always a fun evening of fellowship, conversation, competition, and friendship.

 

 

The intersection of faith & sports

I recently discovered the “Above & Beyond” podcast hosted by Brock Huard of 710 ESPN Seattle. Brock played quarterback for the UW Huskies and several NFL teams. He is now a radio talk show host and ESPN college football analyst. His first podcast was a conversation with Matt Hasselbeck, former NFL quarterback.

On the first episode of Above & Beyond, Brock sits down with friend and former Seahawks teammate QB Matt Hasselbeck. From growing up with Christian parents to spending time at Green Bay with Reggie White to running away from baptism, Matt shares some of the most important moments from his faith and sports journey.

I appreciated the sports stories, but especially how each one shared how their faith impacts their careers and family life. Brock will be doing the podcast every other week. I look forward to the next one.

 
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Posted by on April 24, 2017 in Faith, News stories, NFL, Seattle, Sports

 

One of the great rivalries of sports

brady-vs-manningBook Review: Brady vs Manning: The untold story of the rivalry that transformed the NFL, by Gary Myers

If you compiled a list of the greatest NFL quarterbacks of all time, it would not be complete without Tom Brady and Peyton Manning. The two of them have set and held many of the records for quarterbacks in the NFL. In addition to their individual accomplishments, they have gone head-to-head in many crucial games throughout their respective careers. Many of these contests resulted in their respective team going on to the AFC Championship Game and/or Super Bowl.

This is the story told by Gary Myers in his book, Brady vs Manning: The untold story of the rivalry that transformed the NFL. Not only does he describe the games in which these two quarterbacks competed against each other, Myers also describes their upbringing, college environments, relationships in the locker room, and family life outside of football. In short, Myers provides insight into the people and events that shaped the lives and careers of these two successful men. The epilogue brings the story up to date with Peyton Manning winning Super Bowl 50 and Tom Brady being investigated for Deflategate.

The book is well-written, insightful, and entertaining. If you are a fan of these two quarterbacks or just enjoy the NFL in general, you will enjoy reading this book.

I received this book from the Blogging for Books program in exchange for this review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.

 
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Posted by on November 28, 2016 in Books, NFL, Sports